Monday, July 25, 2011

Zoya update

Zoya, 9 years old

I've decided that a good analogy for a nine year old girl is the board game Risk. Let me explain...

For six weeks of the summer, Zoya is going to a day camp where she gets to swim and do crafts and go on field trips.

Every day she battles mean girls and mosquitoes. Some days she conquers small worlds of kid clicks and places her signet ring stamp on new territories, marking parts of the park like the terrain of a giant Risk board. Other days, she chooses to sit quietly to the side and eat a small bag of Doritos instead.

I love this about my daughter. She has boundaries.

Growing up is difficult. I worry about my girls. "Mom, she doesn't like me!" "Mom, that boy said I have chicken legs." "She told the other girls not to talk to me."

So far, though, Zoya is maturing with ease. She's a kid with imagination and boundaries. If a few girls are fighting around her, she simply removes herself. I didn't figure out how to navigate hard situations like that til' at least my late twenties.

If you were to meet Zoya for the first time, you may find her quiet. Her heart seems to wear a hard hat. But don't worry. It pumps steadily underneath its protective cover. It pumps compassion and street smarts. It pumps adventure and loyalty.

When we switched around rooms upstairs, Zoya got her own room and was able to pick a few new decorations to make it distinctly Zo. She chose a travel theme, and has a picture of the Eiffel Tower in Paris, a constellations map, and stickers showcasing New York City and London. She has taped a piece of paper onto the wall, a list of ten places in the world she wants to visit when she grows up. A few places noted: Madagascar, The North Pole, Australia.

"Mom, don't tell Papa I asked you because I already talked to him about this three times and he said that I need to stop asking, that we would wait and see, but, will you buy me a ticket to Paris when I graduate from high school?"

Zoya is growing in her relationship with God. Almost every night we, as a family, read a passage from the Bible and talk about it. We say a few prayers. Zoya's comprehension of the stories has really grown. Last year around this time, we'd have to remind her to pay attention and quiz her afterword to ensure she wasn't busy focusing on something else (like a piece of string) during our family time. But this year, after the story is read, she provides great summaries. She answers questions in light of Jesus.

Zoya is not the nine year old poster child. She's a tad lazy, and will quietly get out of chores by slipping up to her room to read or make packing lists for future adventures. If there is only one Popsicle left in the freezer, she'd take it for herself in a second. But I am having a great time parenting her. I learn about resilience and quiet contentment from Zoya. She teaches me that I have the power to simply remove myself from hard places. And my imagination has grown by leaps and bounds from her proximity.

3 comments:

  1. I'm just beginning to learn what a child can teach me. We're at 14-months-old, so now I'm discovering all the things that end up in the trash can. Thanks for sharing this. I have a 9-year-old niece and it's rough out there.

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  2. MUITO BOM! Eu acredito que Deus criou o homem e deixou o manual de instrução, a “BÍBLIA SAGRADA!” A bíblia é a divina revelação da palavra de Deus e não produtos enlatados, eu costumo dizer que: “As pessoas precisam parar de comer tudo o que dão. E começar a questionar! ” Alguém escuta alguma coisa de alguém, e saem falando, sem questionar, sem saber se é verdade ou não. As pessoas precisam se perguntar! Será que a minha crença esta de acordo com a lei de Deus? Será que a religião que eu nasci sempre me falou a verdade? Quando uma pessoa morre pra onde ela vai? Ela volta? A bíblia apóia o homossexualismo? Quem não herdara o reino de Deus? O que devo saber sobre idolatria, imagens e escultura? O que devo saber sobre o único batismo? Será que tem uma seqüência para salvação? A quem eu devo me confessar, quem pode me perdoar? Religião salva alguém? Essas e outras perguntas e respostas em:
    www.aunicaverdadeemsuapropriabiblia.blogspot.com
    Você pode dizer, eu já sou salvo amém! Vamos atrás de quem não esta, “Se você quer se dar bem com o mundo seja hipócrita, mas se você quer se dar bem com Deu seja verdadeiro!” divulgue este site, porque: “Eis que vêm dias, diz o Senhor Jeová, em que enviarei fome sobre a terra, não fome de pão, nem sede de água, mas de ouvir as palavras do Senhor. E irão vagabundos de um mar até outro mar, e do norte até ao oriente; correrão por toda parte, buscando a palavra do Senhor, e não a acharão." ( Amós cap 8 ver 11 e 12 )Fale para outras pessoas, por que “O Senhor não retarda a sua promessa, ainda que alguns têm por tardia: mas é longânimo para convosco, não querendo que alguns se percam, senão que todos venham a arrepender-se.” (II Pedro cap. 3 ver 8) e “Que quer que todos os homens se salvem, e venham ao conhecimento da verdade. Porque há um só Deus, e um só Mediador entre Deus e os homens, Jesus Cristo o homem. (I A Timóteo cap 2 ver 5 e 6)
    Seja sua bíblia, católica ou evangélica, aqui você vai tirar suas duvidas.
    www.aunicaverdadeemsuapropriabiblia.blogspot.com
    E conhecereis a verdade, e a verdade vos libertara (João cap 8 ver 32) Se você tiver coragem de perguntar, a bíblia terá coragem de responder!

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